How to find Mr. Right, Dating and Mating.

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By Tom Cornett

From dates to mates


Women meet Mr. Wrong because Mr. Right doesn't exist. What I mean is that her real expectations will never be realized because men do not, will not and can not change who they are. Men are chameleons when it comes to attracting a woman but their true color is usually hidden.

Remember ladies, the man you are trying to form has already been in his mommy's mold for many years. A woman has to find a way through conversation and subtle investigation in order to find out what makes a certain man tick. Women must find out who the real man is and then decide if she wants to continue the relationship.

I believe that many women look at a man like taking on an improvement project. She will pick a looser and out of sheer determination, try her best to make him a winner. If she succeeds in making him a winner, he runs off with some bimbo that weighs a few pounds less and treats him like a God.

This happens because the woman didn't dig deep at first to see that he really was a looser outside and in. If a man is selfish when you meet him, he will be selfish 50 years later. Read his eyes for honesty and listen to his words "between the lines" for how he really feels about you. If he is a cock-a-doodle-doer about his finances or love making ability, run away as fast as you can because this is an idiot looking for eye candy to impress his friends.

Women meet Mr. Wrong constantly because they are overlooking Mr. Maybe. Mr. Maybe can turn into Mr. Yes , if he shows patience and a real effort to get to know who the woman is. Mr. Yes is simply the man who can fulfill her needs emotionally and physically. He will be her partner in life with love and will always talk with her and her only about their relationship.

Three is definitely a crowd when it comes to love. Thousands of marriages break apart because of an instigating third party. Your life at home and especially in the bedroom is the ultimate sacred trust of a marriage. On the other hand, it is a no brainer to dump someone who abuses you in any way.

The fact remains that women meet Mr. Wrong and men meet Ms. Wrong all the time. If intuition is trying to scream "NO" above the voices of loneliness and needing love, stop, look and listen! Your gut feeling most all of the time is right. Dose he treat you like he loves you? Does he talk to you like he loves you? True love is easiest to find when you are not looking for it.

I know this is old school but it works. Just be yourself and be aware of the men who talk to you and not at you. Is a man looking at you like he would like to meet you or he would like to bed you? All men will look at your body, but Mr. Maybe will care enough to also look at who you are.

Here are my seven signs of love: 1, A gleam in the eye. 2 An inviting smile. 3. A feeling of faith. 4. A warmth in your heart. 5. A calm in your soul. 6. A sigh of surrender. 7. A wish for a kiss. These seven things on a night out in the worst bar in town was what I experienced when I met my wife 20 years ago. She is still my Ms. Yes. True love may be just around the corner of your eye. One sparkle in the eyes of love is worth more than a trillion sparkling diamonds. Keep not looking and you will find him.

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blondepoet Level 3 Commenter 3 years ago

Omg there is some great advice here.So now I know what I am doing wrong.I pick losers and they remain losers, it all makes sense now. But how does one know what they are really like to begin with lol, sometimes men cover up who they really are like telling me they are married for one.Sigh as Tammy Wynette sings "Sometimes it's hard to be a woman"

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ajcor Level 1 Commenter 3 years ago

Great advice Tom - you are so right - and that old saying about "when you are choosing your wife to first look at the mother" also holds true - but isn't it awful if you think about it - a woman finds the man "she thinks she can work on" to become that dream person and Then he trots off with another - what a waste of time and effort that would be although I have never been down that track I can sympathise - good words Tom.....cheers and thanks

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Tom Cornett Hub Author 3 years ago

Thanks blondepoet, Tammy was right. Funny, an old friend of mine wrote the song D-I-V-O-R-C-E for her. :)

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Tom Cornett Hub Author 3 years ago

Thank you ajcor! I gained enough experience in losing at relationships to finally know how to win. Love was democratic. Mind, body and soul voted on it. LOL :)

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blondepoet Level 3 Commenter 3 years ago

Haha I made an error in what I said.I meant to say by not telling me they are married.Too many glasses of the good stuff I think.Boy oh boy!

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Tom Cornett Hub Author 3 years ago

LOl! I thought that was what you meant. :)

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Single Mama 3 years ago

men can change...maybe change is the incorrect term. men can grow...

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Tom Cornett Hub Author 3 years ago

Yes Single Mama, Grow is better. :)

nazishnasim 3 years ago

Wow wOW WOW ...

Exceptional hub; even without all the fancy pictures , it hits right on target. Very succinct and very true!

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Tom Cornett Hub Author 3 years ago

Thank you nazishnasim. :)

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twogroce 22 months ago

Thanks Tom for sharing this hub. You are right here, I thought I could change my ex husband when we were dating and even married. I just kept hoping he would change for the better. What I realized is he can only change himself. Keep in mind I did say EX. I don't ever want to go through that again. I have been single now for 6 years and everytime I think about dating again I quickly talk myself out of it. I quit looking.

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Tom Cornett Hub Author 22 months ago

twogroce....thanks for stopping by....I hope love finds you someday. :)

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Ivorwen Level 1 Commenter 22 months ago

I like your list at the end, of 7 signs of love. Seems pretty accurate.

The one thing my mom and grandmas always said was that you could not change a man, so choose carefully. He will be what he is. Their advise was to listen to him talk about his dreams, and make sure they were something you could support full heatedly. Watch how he spends his free time and his money. It will show what he really values. I think it was pretty accurate advice.

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Tom Cornett Hub Author 22 months ago

Thanks Ivorwen...your mom and grandmas are smart women. :)

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